The Extreme Mom is an online commentary of the actual conversation taking place inside the head of Gina Fenton’s head.
With over 100 Thousand likes on her Facebook page, and a successful blog, she is also a nurse, a mom, and an advocate for those of us with ADHD. Her work will be featured in an upcoming book called, “Mom for the Holidays” due to be released in 2015 and in 2016 "How to Survive Tantrums and Babysitters" both coming from Monkey Star Press
Gina is a beautiful person, and one of the kindest people I know, and the“Extreme” label is by no means a cliché. Gina is humbled by the everyday adversity of ADHD, Depression, Bipolar, Autistic Spectrum Disorders; Asperger’s and Sensory Processing Disorder to name a few. She is a proud member of the Parental Special Forces. That’s like a Green Beret, but with more practical skills.
The Extreme Mom lives in NY with her husband, four children, two dogs and the infamous feline… “ThatGoddamnedCat.” She’s an active advocate for ADHD, Autistic spectrum disorders, and mental health. Gina’s a Registered Nurse specialized in pediatrics, obstetrics, mental health, school nursing and childbirth education. She loves children, animals and baby dinosaurs. I speak for myself and Yvonne when I say we both LOVE The Extreme Mom.
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Many ADHD People and non ADHD People, who are trying to achieve things, set goals for themselves. This is a practice employed by many people but not me. My wife enjoys setting goals and using them as a way to get things done. I look at them as something else at which I can fail.
I have heard you are more likely to achieve goals if you write them down first. I dont think I would write them down because it is stilll failure only now there is documentation of it.
Join me Tom Nardone and my wife Yvonne Nardone as we hash this out.
Tom Nardone of ADHD People
We judge everything we see and hear and this is okay. Sometimes we are wrong and sometimes we are right. Join Tom and Yvonne as they discuss judgement in the world and in facebook groups.
Tom and Yvonne Discuss ways people have Quit jobs leaving. Why do some people choose to leave a job in a disrespectful or destructive manner.
Are ADHD People more or less prone to do this? I dont know and I dont know and I dont even remember if we brought it up, but it is late and I am too tired to check into it.
I really hate it when Yvonne says “Hey honey! Let’s watch a movie on Netflix tonight!” Don’t get me wrong. I love my ADHD wife, and I love spending time with her. However, us watching a movie on Netflix does not consist of us watching a movie on Netflix. It is something entirely different. Both of us are as ADHD as Hell, and it usually goes like this.
We begin by queuing up the movies. Yvonne and I have standards for the movies we watch. There is one requirement that both of us have before it is even considered. The movie must be rated R. No PG, no PG-13, it must be rated R. If it is not rated r, then both of us know that the movie will only be a watered down version of what it could have been. We feel if the director had cared, enough about (his viewers they ) DECIDE ON THEIR OR HE. BE CONSISTENT would have included the right swear words and graphic violence that make a movie enjoyable for the whole family.
In True ADHD Fashion we will begin scrolling through the entire menu, from A to Z. We will stop here and there to watch a preview. This part of the process is much like the old TV program called “The Gong Show” As the preview starts we watch it intently. As the preview is rolling, if either of us sees a red flag, we say, “VETO”. That means stop the preview, and continue scrolling.
Yvonne will immediately veto a movie for the following reasons: creepy/evil children, the lighting in the movie is too dark, or movies about vampires, werewolves, zombies or Satan.
I will Veto any movie that has two people who are obviously going to fall in love. I will veto any movie that has Barbra Streisand, Sandra Bullock, Ryan Reynolds, Ben Aflac, Ben Stiller or Jason Statham. I will also under no circumstances watch any tear-jerking sports movies. Yvonne will not usually enter my man cave because according to her, it is “gross in there”; therefore, we have to watch the “together” movies in the family room where we have only a modest entertainment system. Because of this, I automatically veto any movie I think should be viewed in High-Def or in 5.1 Surround.
This usually takes about an hour, and it is not even over yet. At this point, we will get up and take our bathroom breaks, get something to drink, and maybe pop some more popcorn.
Now an hour has passed, and we have gone through every movie that Netflix has to offer, and determined that they are all shit. Then Yvonne wants to go to the documentaries. She loves them. I have only one rule about documentaries. “Is this a documentary of a rock band?” If not, veto. Then it is on to TV series.
By this time, we have spent about two and a half hours together. We have walked through the muck and the mire that Hollywood has placed before us. We have taken an extensive in-depth tour at “The Museum of Shit-Box Entertainment”. We spent two and a half hours of our lives identifying all the programs that we never want to see. I have to be honest with you; I would not trade a minute of it.
I know that some of you would feel that this process would be like being beaten over the head with a bag of oranges however, it is not. During those two hours, we laughed, talked, asked questions, made comments, talked about the good or bad movies we saw together and apart. We talk of the times in our lives when we saw the older movies with our parents. Yvonne and I interacted and communicated and did not even realize or care where the time went. When we realized what time it was, we laughed about that. I then got up, kissed her, said goodnight, and went upstairs to play with my toys.
Yvonne and I spend some good quality time together. How tragic would it have been to find a movie that we both liked?
I am Tom Nardone, and you are welcome
There are circumstances we find ourselves in which we have a choice to do the right thing or do something else. Most of us most of the time to as we should in spite of what we want to do, but there are certain things of specific things that we simply say,"Screw this, me first the rest of the world can just deal with it."
My husband is Tom Nardone. Anyone in a relationship with a blogger might have the same issue as me. He is obsessed with blogging, but I think he is even more obsessed with bloggers. When I say obsessed I don’t mean He loves to play games or go to the gym (ha ha). I mean he has lost 40 pounds because he’s so busy blogging that he won’t stop to eat.
He not only blogs but now he has joined your community of bloggernaughts to interface with. For him It’s seemingly a blogger love gone cult. He knows and communicates way more online than in real life. But to Tom this is his real life. Don’t get me wrong I’m proud that he’s found a stage for his bizarre and controversial opinions. Blogging also makes him happy.
Tom is obsessed with his blogger stats and checks them like a 60 year old woman playing video poker. 300 hits is an all cherry day. His day is shot if people don’t like him or comment. I really liken it to a gambling addiction. Tom sits in front of his laptop after publishing a post, as if it were a video game. He used to bring me his laptop to show me a map of the world on goggle analytics, to brag to me about the wide span of his readers or as I will call them followers. “Hey babe! Check this out they love me in Australia” or “Hey babe! Look I am storming across Europe!!” He pretends not to care that I don’t read his all of his blog.
This happens to be true. I don’t read all of his blog. I think Tom is a brilliant writer and he connects well with his readers. The problem is that I have heard this shit a thousand times before, and since I don’t agree with half of the shit he says, I find it to be a reminder of the aggravation of his twisted and non-sense views. Sometimes when I read his blog I just want to pretend we are not related.
I have not been working, so I have enabled Tom to spend all of his free time on this. My Tom is ADD so I have been keeping track of the location of his wallet, and keys. I pay all the bills, I beg him to please bring me a load of laundry down to wash, and I am convinced that were it not for my involvement, that he would leave the house and go to work, with two unmatched shoes and not give a shit one way or the other.
I just bought him a new pair of shoes with the child-like Velcro straps (that I hate) which he insists on. Tom continued to wear this other pair of shoes that had holes in them because he says he likes them. I of course exercised my spousal privilege and threw them away. He cried like a girl about it. He actually said “Fine, I’m going to throw something away that you like to wear” Yah right! He doesn’t have the balls. I dare him to do it.
The only thing he has to do is put gas in his car and go to work for 40 hours a week. I have allowed this life style because I was laid off, but I am going back to work and Tom will have to become an adult.
Tom’s life is going to change dramatically. He will have to not only take the trash out to the garage, but also put a new bag in the can. He will have to match his own shoes and keep track of his own keys. He will even have to cook dinner as he will often get home before me. He will even have to take the initiative to put down his laptop long enough to take a shower, as I will not be here to prod him.
The truth is that Tom is a wonderful person, and he always steps-up just like he will when I start working. I have always known that I can depend on Tom to be there when I need him. He loves me more than anyone ever has, and it brings him to tears to see me disappointed in him.
It is also true that he is the funniest person I have ever seen when he gets mad. I am looking forward to the show.
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Some of us with ADHD have experienced a life of failure. We try, and we try, but in the end the scoreboard is the same. I am not suggesting we are destined to fail, or victory, for us is a fool’s errand. I am saying some of us with ADHD see it more than most.
Tom & Yvonne why Yvonne has forbidden him from accompanying her to the grocery store, much to Tom’s approval. They discuss the foolish things they buy and the challenges they face when buying them. This is a hysterically funny show.
Because of the way ADHD Adults live our lives, there are certain things we simply do not need or want. Yvonne Goes through her little list for me asking me to explain some of them to her.
Special thanks to ADHD Coach and ADHD Podcaster Jeff Copper for the bumper intro.
ADHD and Lazy People
On ADHD People, Tom and Yvonne Nardone discus how Tom thinks it’s totally awesome to be lazy and believes it’s a perfectly acceptable way to live. Yvonne argues that it’s just a symptom of being ADHD and that laziness should be resisted. Listen to this ADHD couple banter about being lazy verses being productive in a humorous way.
ADHD Couple Tom & Yvonne Nardone discuss some of the things Yvonne will not allow Tom to buy or own for various reasons. Tom defends himself and the reasons for which he feels he is entitled to such things. Tom believes many of them to be complete bullshit. Also in a unique twist, Yvonne performs in her debut performance on the accordion.
Tom & Yvonne Discuss the things in there lives which have brought them their most embarrassing moments.
One characteristic of ADHD People is Irritability. This is my biggest struggle. I am impatient and I have said before the trouble with the earth is its inhabitants. It is usually strangers who give me the most aggravation. They are completely unaware what is going through my mind. When I see their buffoonery in the way that they drive their cars or complain about shit out loud, I have nothing but contempt for them and the air they breathe. I feel as a hostage when I am not able to get away from them. I believe that is my ADHD and while medication keeps it at bay, it is still difficult for me and many ADHD people to just blow off and dismiss.
Perhaps many of these people are ADHD. Does that matter while I am being aggravated?
What dose this have to do with
ADHD? I am Tom Nardone and I am ADHD! That is what it has to do with ADHD. My wife and I decided to play one of our favorite games this week. We call it what I guess everyone else who plays it calls it. Would you rather. I think it was funny so it became episode 5. Enjoy. Just a fun show nothing ground breaking.
ADHD / ADD | The ADHD Kitchen, Where Trouble is Always Cooking
In an ADHD household the kitchen is always a source of trouble. Whether it is the cooking the cleaning or the things that break and cause us to have to make unplanned trips off the couch. Yvonne and I in what will likely be a many part series will focus on the food and food preparation issues that plague ADHD households.
In a world that makes no sense to me but perfect sense to her is the source of this broadcast. I do not believe we made any progress but that is not the nature of what we do here at the Tom Nardone Show. We are here to celebrate our differences and prove to the world that in a happy marriage (particularly an ADHD marriage) the Kitchen is not a battle worth fighting.
I am Tom Nardone, and You are welcome.
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It is common for ADHD people to make new years resolutions for them selves. Yvonne have made new years resolutions but not for ourselves. I made Yvonnes resolutions and she made mine. We revealed them to each other on the show.
This is one of two pilot shows we released early on. So please enjoy the ADHD couples New Years Resolution Battle Royale.
We have all been on them and the stories while not pretty are hilarious. I could never seem to get a date and stopped asking girls out. I turned to dating services where I could meet other women who could not get a date. I have dated some real losers and even met the woman who I now refer to as my evil ex--wife
Yvonne talks about her blind dates because she too is ADHD. Yvonne found it difficult to get someone to ask her out.
We invite you to learn about why dating sucks and the people who made them suck. Hear about Yvonne’s worst blind date ever who she calls switch-blade Eddie. It is a potpourri of ADHD dating chaos.
I am Tom Nardone and you are welcome.